About – Don’t Marry Career Women

Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don’t marry a woman with a career.

Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it. A recent study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women–even those with a “feminist” outlook–are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner.

Not a happy conclusion, especially given that many men, particularly successful men, are attracted to women with similar goals and aspirations. And why not? After all, your typical career girl is well-educated, ambitious, informed and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure…at least until you get married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful she is the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you. Sound familiar?

Many factors contribute to a stable marriage, including the marital status of your spouse’s parents (folks with divorced parents are significantly more likely to get divorced themselves), age at first marriage, race, religious beliefs and socio-economic status. And, of course, many working women are indeed happily and fruitfully married–it’s just that they are less likely to be so than non-working women. And that, statistically speaking, is the rub.

To be clear, we’re not talking about a high-school dropout minding a cash register. For our purposes, a “career girl” has a university-level (or higher) education, works more than 35 hours a week outside the home and makes more than $30,000 a year.

If a host of studies are to be believed, marrying these women is asking for trouble. If they quit their jobs and stay home with the kids, they will be unhappy ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003). They will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Social Forces, 2006). You will be unhappy if they make more money than you do ( Journal of Marriage and Family, 2001). You will be more likely to fall ill ( American Journal of Sociology). Even your house will be dirtier ( Institute for Social Research).

Why? Well, despite the fact that the link between work, women and divorce rates is complex and controversial, much of the reasoning is based on a lot of economic theory and a bit of common sense. In classic economics, a marriage is, at least in part, an exercise in labor specialization. Traditionally men have tended to do “market” or paid work outside the home and women have tended to do “non-market” or household work, including raising children. All of the work must get done by somebody, and this pairing, regardless of who is in the home and who is outside the home, accomplishes that goal. Nobel laureate Gary S. Becker argued that when the labor specialization in a marriage decreases–if, for example, both spouses have careers–the overall value of the marriage is lower for both partners because less of the total needed work is getting done, making life harder for both partners and divorce more likely. And, indeed, empirical studies have concluded just that.

In 2004, John H. Johnson examined data from the Survey of Income and Program Participation and concluded that gender has a significant influence on the relationship between work hours and increases in the probability of divorce. Women’s work hours consistently increase divorce, whereas increases in men’s work hours often have no statistical effect. “I also find that the incidence in divorce is far higher in couples where both spouses are working than in couples where only one spouse is employed,” Johnson says. A few other studies, which have focused on employment (as opposed to working hours) have concluded that working outside the home actually increases marital stability, at least when the marriage is a happy one. But even in these studies, wives’ employment does correlate positively to divorce rates, when the marriage is of “low marital quality.”

The other reason a career can hurt a marriage will be obvious to anyone who has seen their mate run off with a co-worker: When your spouse works outside the home, chances increase they’ll meet someone they like more than you. “The work environment provides a host of potential partners,” researcher Adrian J. Blow reported in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, “and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals.”

There’s more: According to a wide-ranging review of the published literature, highly educated people are more likely to have had extra-marital sex (those with graduate degrees are 1.75 more likely to have cheated than those with high school diplomas.) Additionally, individuals who earn more than $30,000 a year are more likely to cheat.

And if the cheating leads to divorce, you’re really in trouble. Divorce has been positively correlated with higher rates of alcoholism, clinical depression and suicide. Other studies have associated divorce with increased rates of cancer, stroke, and sexually-transmitted disease. Plus divorce is financially devastating. According to one recent study on “Marriage and Divorce’s Impact on Wealth,” published in The Journal of Sociology, divorced people see their overall net worth drop an average of 77%.

So why not just stay single? Because, academically speaking, a solid marriage has a host of benefits beyond just individual “happiness.” There are broader social and health implications as well. According to a 2004 paper entitled “What Do Social Scientists Know About the Benefits of Marriage?” marriage is positively associated with “better outcomes for children under most circumstances,” higher earnings for adult men, and “being married and being in a satisfying marriage are positively associated with health and negatively associated with mortality.” In other words, a good marriage is associated with a higher income, a longer, healthier life and better-adjusted kids.

A word of caution, though: As with any social scientific study, it’s important not to confuse correlation with causation. In other words, just because married folks are healthier than single people, it doesn’t mean that marriage is causing the health gains. It could just be that healthier people are more likely to be married.

1. You are less likely to get married to her.

So say Lee A. Lillard and Linda J. Waite of the University of Michigan’s Michigan Retirement Research Center. In a paper, “Marriage, Divorce and the Work and Earnings Careers of Spouses”, published in April, 2000, they found that for white women, higher earnings, more hours of employment and higher wages while single all reduce the chances of marriage. “This suggests that (1) success in the labor market makes it harder for women to make a marital match, (2) women with relatively high wages and earnings search less intensively for a match, or (3) successful women have higher standards for an acceptable match than women who work less and earn less.” Some research suggests the opposite is true for black women.

Source: “Marriage, Divorce and the Work and Earnings Careers of Spouses,” Lee A. Lillard, Linda J. Waite, University of Michigan, Michigan Retirement Research Center, Working Papers, April, 2000.

2. If you do marry, you are more likely to get divorced.

In 2004, John H. Johnson examined data from the Survey of Income and Program Participation and concluded that gender has a significant influence on the relationship between work hours and increases in the probability of divorce. Women’s work hours consistently increase divorce, whereas increases in men’s work hours often have no statistical effect. “I also find that the incidence in divorce is far higher in couples where both spouses are working than in couples where only one spouse is employed,” Johnson said. A few other studies, which have focused on employment (as opposed to working hours) have concluded that working outside the home actually increases marital stability, at least when the marriage is a happy one. But even in these studies, wives’ employment does correlate positively to divorce rates, when the marriage is of “low marital quality.”

Sources: “A Treatise On The Family,” Gary S. Becker, Harvard University Press, 1981; “Do Long Work Hours Contribute To Divorce?” John H. Johnson, Topics in Economic Analysis and Policy, 2004; “Wives’ Employment and Spouses’ Marital Happiness,” Robert Schoen, Stacy J. Rogers, Paul R. Amato, Journal of Family Issues, April 2006.

3. She is more likely to cheat on you.

According to a wide-ranging review of the published literature, highly educated people are more likely to have had extra-marital sex (those with graduate degrees are 1.75 more likely to have cheated than those with high school diplomas.) One April, 2005 study, by Adrian J. Blow for the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy summed it up: “If a woman has more education than her partner, she is more likely to have a sexual relationship outside of her primary relationship; if her husband has more education, she is less likely to engage in infidelity.” Additionally individuals who earn more than $30,000 a year are more likely to cheat. “In a more general sense, it appears that employment has significantly influenced infidelity over the years,” Blow said. “The work environment provides a host of potential partners, and individuals frequently find themselves spending a great deal of time with these individuals.”

Source: “Infidelity in Committed Relationships II: A Substantive Review,” Adrian J. Blow, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, April 2005.

4. You are much less likely to have kids.

According to the National Marriage Project, the incidence of childlessness is growing across the socioeconomic scale. In 2004, 20% of women over 40 remained childless. Thirty years ago that figure was 10%. But the problem–and it is a problem because the vast majority of women desire children–is much more extreme for career women. According to Sylvia Ann Hewlett, an economist and the author of Creating a Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children, only 51% of ultra-achieving women (those earning more than $100,000 a year) have had children by age 40. Among comparable men, the figure was 81%. A third of less successful working women (earning either $55,000 or $65,000) were also childless at age 40.

Sources: The State of Our Unions 2006: Life Without Children, The National Marriage Project, July 2006. Creating a Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children, Sylvia Ann Hewlett, Miramax Books, 2002.

5. If you do have kids, your wife is more likely to be unhappy.

A 2003 study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family concluded that wealthier couples with children suffer a drop in marital satisfaction three times as great as their less affluent peers. One of the study’s co-authors publicly speculated that the reason is that wealthier women are used to “a professional life, a fun, active, entertaining life.”

Sources: “Parenthood and Martial Satisfaction: A Meta-Analytic Review,” Jean M. Twenge, W. Keith Campbell, and Craig A. Foster, Journal of Marriage and Family, 2003; “Money doesn’t mean happy parenting,” USA Today, July 21, 2003.

6. Your house will be dirtier.

In 2005, two University of Michigan scientists concluded that if your wife has a job earning more than $15 an hour (roughly $30,000 a year), she will do 1.9 hours less housework a week. Of course, this can be solved if the husband picks up a broom.

Source: “Data Quality of Housework Hours in the Panel Study of Income Dynamics: Who Really Does The Dishes?”, Alexandra C. Achen and Frank P. Stafford, Institute for Social Research, University of Michigan, September 2005.

7. You’ll be unhappy if she makes more than you.

You aren’t going to like it if she makes more than you do: “Married men’s well-being is significantly lower when married women’s proportional contributions to the total family income are increased.”

Source: “Changes in Wives’ Income: Effects on Marital Happiness, Psychological Well-Being, and the Risk of Divorce,” Stacy J. Rogers, Danelle D. DeBoer, Journal of Marriage and Family, May 2001

8. She will be unhappy if she makes more than you.

According to the authors of a controversial 2006 study: “American wives, even wives who hold more feminist views about working women and the division of household tasks, are typically happier when their husband earns 68% or more of the household income.” Reason? “Husbands who are successful breadwinners probably give their wives the opportunity to make more choices about work and family–e.g., working part-time, staying home, or pursuing a meaningful but not particularly remunerative job.”

Sources: What’s Love Got To Do With It? W. Bradford Wilcox, Steven L. Nock, Social Forces, March, 2006; http://www.happiestwives.org.

9. You are more likely to fall ill.

A 2001 study found that having a wife who works less than 40 hours a week has no impact on your health, but having a wife who works more than 40 hours a week has “substantial, statistically significant, negative effects on changes in her husband’s health over that time span.” The author of another study summarizes that “wives working longer hours not do not have adequate time to monitor their husband’s health and healthy behavior, to manage their husband’s emotional well-being or buffer his workplace stress.”

Sources: “It’s About Time and Gender: Spousal Employment and Health,” Ross M. Stolzenberg, American Journal of Sociology, July, 2001; “Marriage, Divorce and the Work and Earnings Careers of Spouses,” Lee A. Lillard, Linda J. Waite, University of Michigan, Michigan Retirement Research Center, Working Papers, April, 2000.

1,344 comments so far

  1. Donna on

    I am so happy I am a career woman so that narrow minded simpletons like this author and those who agree with this dribble can eliminate me from consideration as an acceptable mate. I can’t imagine the dreary life in store for the bride of these fools. God bless you and keep you far away from me.!

    • Patriot on

      Right. How old are you, 41? FYI your filthy womb is nearing expiry. Nobody has made the mistake of getting you pregnant yet. And it ain’t even gonna change unless you become the stereotype that pokes holes in condoms, maybe then you have a chance. Or else, the only sperm that you’ll get for producing a baby would be from ‘banks’. Lol #yoursuckasslife

      • cloverg on

        Filthy womb? You sound like a psycho.

    • nome on

      Still… you’re commenting here.. the butthurt must be strong…

    • Anonymous on

      I’m assuming you believe yourself happy and satisfied with life and career. I’m also assuming that you are at this time looking for a man as your husband. That said it seems apparent that you have expectations that any suitable man will not meet since he will also have expectations of you – some of which will be complementary, some not.

      Those that are not will require some compromise from you. He may for example want you to spend some of your own time to raise the child and not rely on either of the child’s respective grandparent(s) – on a weekly basis. And not just when a business schedule allows.

      However since your list will be almost all inclusive and generally non-negotiable you I believe will never recognise a suitable mate even if he is right in front of you in the same room and in conversation with you.

      • David on

        Girls are no longer raised to even have “a suitable mate” in the first place. They are no longer raised to be wives or mothers/ child-minders. The latter requiring degrees, the former being too sexist and oppressive to women. The moment woman depends on man for anyhting then there’s outcry for the Gov to do something about it even if that something itself is discriminatory and undemocratic!
        There’s no compromise because by default the genders are now raised not to complement each others but to act as independent contractors in producing children for the State and Capitalism. Women especially will not compromise since they can get the State to provide healthcare, housing and food stamp and income support and baby benefits to them, all of which rendering the man essentially useless beyond payment and repairing a few things around the house which can be accomplished by a boyfriend also.
        There’s no expectation from the grandparents either (other than financial contribution to alleviate the State) since by default it is State Functionaries and Private Entrepreneurs who are going to raise the child and provide the child with a social identity in the first place.

    • Tina on

      I agree with you Donna, In the past relationships I have been lied too by ex-husband & boyfriends having their head in the clouds; saying how they will take care of me. I am tired of just getting by. I can not rely on pipe dreams. My career is a truck driver(18 wheeler) got a local job working 10-12 hour days making over $50,000 a year.

      • David on

        Like I say women these days will only meet 2 kinds of men in their lives: (1) men that are not men and (2) men that are turning into women. One only needs to hear the kind of complaints women make about men to understand this. Next time you hear 2 women talking and complaining about their men you’ll note that the men in the conversation could only be classified as being in either of these 2 categories according to their complaints. Or like you genericly put it had their heads in the clouds! But you’re too naive to even comprehend what’s really going on so let me just ask you but 1 question: how many of your lovers actually asked you to leave your 18 wheeler job for their sake??? 10? 20? 30? 50?

  2. Tryst on

    Career women have higher divorce rates because they can afford them and so can their husbands. Men married to non-working women have to pay alimony to get divorced. They’re also more likely to have children, which means child support, custody wars, and the prospect of losing their kids if they divorce. Basically, divorce carries a much higher cost to men married to non-working women than it does for men married to career women. THAT is why the rate is higher, not because career women are just divorcaholics. The statistic about cheating is just plain nonsense that was published for sensationalism, not any reputable study. Lastly you don’t get to cherry pick numbers from a study you admit was controversial and its credibility hotly debated, and cite those to say that these women are unhappy if they earn more than their husbands. Google “I hate my wife” if you need a reality-check on the benefits of marrying a woman, not a leeching baby factory.

    • Patriot on

      ‘..THAT is why the rate is higher, not because career women are just divorcaholics.’
      Another typical researcher trying to fool the public by altering how the findings are presented and by essentially inversing their implications.
      First of all I’m glad that you admit career women have much higher divorce rates. Because if you didn’t, you’d be purely delusional.
      Divorcaholics? Actually, this seems true. Why? Because career women having higher divorce rates means that they have much less regard for the family unit than non-career women. (don’t forget that 90% of divorces are initiated by women, yes ‘women’. career women or not.) Also you forgot to acknowledge the simple possibility(reality) that a man is much less likely to put up with a career woman and stay in marriage. The first thought that comes to his mind when reading the divorce papers is ‘This woman so proud that she can fend for herself, huh? But what about our marriage? Our kids (if any)? None? Well, in this case, fuk dat. I ain’t putting up with this fake-ass bitch no more.’ And you got another statistic count.
      Cheating? It’s not always physical. Emotional is just as painful. Any realist knows that a woman cheats on her husband fairly long before divorce(probably physical too). Especially a career woman, she’s always got a plan isn’t it.
      Naggaholics, cussaholics, fakeaholics, delusionaholics, grudgeaholics, divorcaholics, workaholics.. yes, workaholics too. They’re ready to work their asses flat and demand equal pay, but can’t put even some of that towards bettering their relationship and family lives.
      Which man would not divorce such a woman?
      It doesn’t take a genius to see that career women’s lives are usually thoroughly fucked up, and it is of their own design. Interesting thing is that they earn ‘all this money’ (lol) and are yet exponentially more whiny, bitchy, bitter about life in general. Go figure.

    • David on

      I don’t know about the States but in the UK child support (or Child Maintenance as it is legally referred to here) is non-negotiable.
      Upon birth a woman can identify whoever she wants as the father. If he protests and only if he does so, then the CSA will arrange for a DNA paternity test to pin him down for child support. Once identified he has to pay wherever he is in the world for about 20 yrs 15-20% of his wage whether he wanted child or not. If he wants parental responsibility (e.g. having a say in the child’s upbringing) he has to apply to court.
      The mother may ascribe any family name to the child – ANY. If the man wants his child to bear his name he has to apply to court.
      There have been cries for the default assumption to be that both parents get custody of the child in case of divorce unless one parent is proven a danger to the child but as of 2013 courts still grant women overwhelmingly child custody on the assumption that the child welbeing will be best with the mother – a mother whom we should remind ourselves is but a custodian in a literal sense given that most of the nurturing, socialisation and upbringing of the child is carried out by State Functionaries and Private Entrepreneurs from an early age as the mother venerates her capitalist employer!
      Thus the overwhelming judicial logic in the UK is that fatherhood is de facto and de jure equivalent to child support solely – Nothing else!

      Note that whoever gets the children also gets the house in order not to disturb the children’s lives and schooling too much.
      Note also that if a man is evicted and finds himself on the street because he has to pay his house mortgage, or rather his ex-wife’s house mortgage and the government’s children maintenance; he must be aware that there’re only a few social housing institutions and charities willing to take him as compared to the hundreds of state-subsidised such institutions for batterred women, single women, young women, single mothers, vulnerable women, transwomen, etc etc. Only when he is incarcerated in a cell is a man guaranteed a roof over his head and food on the table everyday by the State! Men’s lives are expendable.

      Your analysis fundamentally lacks dept my friend. You’ll only be paying alimony on top if she wasn’t working – this is far from being enough to offset the downsides and definitely doesn’t account for the robust statistics about of 2/3 of divorce being initiated by women themselves! Unless the guy is a CEO for a big firm, alimony to a woman these days is meaningless; that’s certainly the case in the UK where she can get social housing, income support, child allowance and a trail of other benefits from her pimp the State. Your payment is not alleviating her burden but rather the State’s burden. And divorce will occur whether you like it or not since it is the woman who initiates it 2/3 of the times herself. You talk about benefits of marrying a woman who is not a leeching baby factory, but this is precisely why back in our forefathers’ days your own mother would only have allowed you to marry a virgin and not any woman who’s been around the block! If you want the full benefits of a truly non-leeching baby factory then I suggest you stick to prostitutes and escorts wherever it is legal – these are the only women who will de facto and de jure NEVER accuse you of rape; and they are also the most honest women on the planet – you pay what you pay and get what you get for what you pay for – no hidden fees, no hidden agendas, no accidental pregnancies, no child support for the next 20 yrs!

      The simple reality is that under the equality paradigm marriage has become obsolete and most women unmarriageable and unmotherable. What’s the difference between a girlfriend and a mistress? Between a mistress and an escort? Between an escort and a model? Between a model and a courtesan?
      Get a perspective.

  3. siddhantsmaheshwari on

    Completely asshole comments

    • nome on

      Especially from feminazis

  4. Patriot on
  5. Emily Adamowicz on

    This comment thread is so full of anger, I’m not sure how to interpret it. On the one hand, it seems like many men are genuinely feeling unappreciated (like accessories to women who are unfortunately and inexcusably self-centred) and are yearning for a happy, close family where parental love isn’t farmed out to the help. On the other hand, denying an intelligent, inquisitive woman from providing a worthwhile, mentally challenging, deeply satisfying and even fun contribution to society just in case her window into that world renders her a selfish and adulterous wife, and an absentee mother is a pretty big stretch for me. Why fidelity is such a problem in our society goes much deeper than a woman having exposure to a wider slice of society. If marriage vows are honoured, both men and women needn’t be so insecure about infidelity as to want to keep each other in ivory towers away from the temptations of the world. Maybe I feel this way because I’m a university professor whose been blissfully married for fifteen years (and together for seven before that), and who absolutely adores my children whose needs come first (alongside the things my husband and I need to do to keep our romance alive and always focused on each other). When I meet someone new of the opposite sex through work, as I have for the duration of my relationship, I quickly manage to work into the conversation that I have a wonderful significant other, end of story. It’s not hard not to cheat if you make a vow to be faithful for life. I also don’t feel scuttled away, kept safely at home away from the interest, excitement, value, and yes, fun of my work and the contribution I make to higher education. My son and daughter see two parents with PhD’s, and know that anything is possible for either of them. My husband and I have different chores at home – I’m proud the inside is spotless and beautiful and our meals are homemade, and he’s proud that the outside is well maintained. I’m proud that he cares enough to maintain our house, he’s proud that I maintain the home. Men and women can be traditional while also being successful, they can have independent interests and be 100% faithful while raising fantastic kids. There are a lot of things wrong with our society and the state of relationships now is nothing short of catastrophic, but there are so many more factors than women working, particularly in a horrible economy where the American Dream seems to have been systematically dismantled and so many women devote themselves to men hoping for that happy home life and financial stability, only to be left alone with no job skills and no means to support themselves should they have to. It’s a very vulnerable position to ask all women to put themselves in. I don’t have the answers, but I think we need to ask many, many more questions.

    • Patriot on

      ‘Men and women can be traditional while also being successful, they can have independent interests and be 100% faithful while raising fantastic kids.’
      Don’t sell a dream.

      ‘but there are so many more factors than women working..’
      You’re just like the government. Cover up real issues swiftly and focus the public’s attention on things they really don’t need to give a fuck about, and hence make them run in circles. Or maybe you represent the government?

      ‘so many women devote themselves to men hoping for that happy home life and financial stability..’
      For a fact, you haven’t, right? Being so ‘successful’ and all.. So what makes you think I’m going to see any truth in this?? Have you ever been outside your house, supermarket and the classroom? Ever been on the streets for a little more while than absolutely necessary? Ever frequented those high-profile social gatherings? Ever listened to the big dreams that women nowadays go on and on about, and how they wouldn’t ‘compromise’ with it in any way, without themselves being worth 2 craps or a little respect?

      Look around you once in a while, old hen.

  6. Jay on

    They’re the Worst.

  7. Patriot on
    • David on

      50 years of feminism and the complete anihilation of marriage, bastardy and the chivalric code and what do we have in 2014?: young men being forced to take compulsory “consent” course, a course that teaches young men to obey women and women to recognise the ‘signs of victimhood’ in unsatisfactory relationships. And needless to say, ‘relationships’ ARE going to be unsatisfactory anyway in this age of dellusion!

      I predict in 50 more years of feminism a woman will more likely ever face the risk of rape than she would ever face the risk of marriage and divorce. Already rape has moved from ‘against her will’ to ‘without consent’ where no force is needed; one can only speculate how more abstract it will become in the next 50 years!?! In the UK as it becomes sexist to even be a wife/husband because it is based on Gender roles, it is only a matter of time before heterosexuals begin to adopt the ‘civil partnership’ in turn instead of marriage, preferring thus to become ‘partners’ rather than ‘husband & wife’!

      As men are charged, penalized and convicted for woman’s body, woman’s baby, woman’s house, woman’s life, woman’s career, other men are gonna get even more cunning at fuck-&-run or run-without-even-fucking-at-all! This will reinforce the current situation whereby women are left with 2 choice of guys only to pick from: men that are not men, and men that are turning into women. One only have to listen to women nagging to each others to validate this statement, e.g. woman A: I find I do a lot of loosers [i.e. they aren’t men enough to take responsibilities]; woman B might respond: My men is useless at home [i.e. she obviously expect some kind of support that he isn’t giving]; another one, woman C might say: where are all the men gone [i.e. in her case she cannot even see any male left at all!]…

      This is bound to leave even more women unsatisfied and thus more men convicted. Fortunately in the next 50 yrs I’d be 82 or possibly dead but it’d be fun to watch this unprecedented masquerade.

      • Patriot on

        Copy that.
        I recently heard a ‘high profile’ (or should I say high strung?) woman who is 38 years old say:
        ‘Now do I feel ready to have a baby..’
        I laughed at her happy face.
        She: ‘Excuse me?’
        Me: ‘Nawh, it’s cool.’

        • David on

          I certainly wouldn’t laugh in her face cause that would be inappropriate but I would seriously wonder whether this means she’s ready to become a mother as well or is that gonna take another 30 yrs? Cause you know nowadays conception and motherhood are two separate things altogether. And though many would suggest that this is nobody’s business (not even the sperm donor’s), which would have indeed been the case 60 yrs ago but these days I think her employer has a legitimate stake in the matter – if she’s got one.
          A friend of mine has just been through 1 yr of maternity leave and will start back in January – she’s like 25; but she was so grateful that her employer would take her back, even inviting her for the Christmas party etc cause she’s on a contract-work employment. Obviously by the look of it she wouldn’t be receptive to have another baby any time soon again if she intends to show how serious she is about her job. Isn’t it fascinating? In the the 1950s a woman or wife as they were called back then would have been more mindful about what her husband and family think about the prospect of a new baby, nowadays it is the employer and company that matter most. Thus it is inevitable there cannot be a single doubt that a career woman will place:
          (1) capitalist employer over husband
          (2) company over family and
          (3) career over children
          This is an unshakable truth. The State is more interested in maintaining the employer-employee relationship than the husband-wife relationship. If you’ve contributed enough national insurance, you’ll get full maternity leave, redundancy allowance and other benefits etc for a while before the State start cutting back in an attempt to force you back to become dependent on an employer. In the workplace itself the State has engineered all kinds of laws from sexual harassment, sexism, quotas etc to encourage women to shift from husband-family-dependency to employer-company-dependency. Employers on their parts responded to the new legal infrastructure by gradually shifting manufacturing abroad and eradicating hierarchical organisational power structure, opting for a horizontal one. This new influx of highly qualified and competent female service workers subsequently resulted in the conspicuous feminization of the workplace. For examples nowadays we can see people putting pictures of themselves with friends and children etc on their office desk [merging thus the private self and the professional self], we can also see pantries, kitchens and lounge areas with sofas etc in offices now; a few companies now even house a creche, while others offer complementary yoga classes etc! Women didn’t leave the homespace – they took it along with them to the workplace!

          Yet capitalism is exploitative: the employer extracts a profit from the worker and the taxman levies a tax on the worker’s wage and on the profit that was extracted from him/her! Despite this however this employer-employee relationship is seen as liberating whereas the husband-wife relationship as oppressive and denigrating! If the Gov would put that much effort into supporting marriage and family as they do capitalism and company maybe it would be working today. Instead they abolish legitimacy law, install no-fault divorce and adding insult to injury start paying welfare to support single mothers and bastards. Unlike the US, the UK has even abolished the so-called marriage penalty, meaning in the UK if a man is the only breadwinner of the household, his wife and children aren’t taken into account when charging him for tax because it would be discriminatory towards working women!

          State policies have a lot to do with the decline of marriage. The US has the lowest amount of welfare investment per capita in the whole of the Western World and has kept the marriage penalty tax regime – they have the highest rate of sustainable marriage in the whole of the Western World! Sweeden on the other extreme spends 80% of its budget on Welfare, have national compulsory daycare systems, individuals are tax separately – result: only 30% of Sweedish children now live in the nuclear family unit!

          And we all know the difficulties, losses and charges men face in general when divorce occurs. So I say to men – forget marriage and procreation! Just enjoy yourself! Your children will become selfish anyway and will not recognise you as their parent because they were raised by State functionaries and capitalist entrepreneurs and will understandably not hesitate to dumb you in a home in your old age like you dumbed them in daycare as infants. They will know their friends not you. So why care? Just tell women what they want to hear until they give you what you want – as simple as that! Unfortunately because the genders can never be truly equal women will inevitably feel lied, cheated, used, deceived, discontent etc-you-name-it in the process – meaning under current law men can get convicted for rape simply because woman is unhappy about liberated relationships! So I say (1) find an excuse to implant cameras in your house or get witnesses or (2) get on with a prostitute instead or better if you can travel to a place where prostitution is legal [wherever it is fully legal and regulated you’ll see only beautiful liberated women there – a feminist nightmare!]; or better (3) take advantage of globalization! This latter one is may come down cheaper in the long run. Men have to survive and make the most of their situation within the legal framework. In fact once procreation is out of the picture even racism becomes redundant. Men of values should never donate sperms to fertility clinics unless the latter is willing to purchase the genetic material for £2000+ (after all we’re talking about making babies here!) – you set the price for your brand! There’re plenty of White Knights out there willing to do the job for free, and if that’s what women want so be it, let them choose their brand. These clinics get so much money while the donors get nothing – it’s about time they change their business model and they will if men have but a bit of respect for themselves!

          • Patriot on

            Very solid set of observations across the board.
            After all that you said yourself, do you still think it was inappropriate of me to laugh at her? Well I think I should have thrown in some shame flame as well, but whatever.
            I’m stealing a good part of what you said and posting it on my profile elsewhere for everyone to see. Hope you don’t mind.

            • David on

              No I don’t mind at all! If I had time to write a blog myself I would. Feel free to copy and edit and do pretty much whatever you want.

  8. cloverg on

    Um…could it be that unemployed wives have fewer options to leave?

    • Patriot on

      Um.. could it be that ‘unemployed’ wives pay more attention to their family in general, bond with them on a much deeper level and hence dread leaving them alone to begin with?

      • David on

        I can never repeat this enough: Men Should Never Get Married. NEVER. N.E.V.E.R! Especially if you live in the UK. N.E.V.E.R!
        Here’s a story worth telling:
        This guy lived a miserable life for most of his life, divorced 32 years ago; unemployed at the time and forced to live in a shabby studio which he could hardly afford; meanwhile his wife got State subsidised housing because she had a kid and more generally simply because she is a woman! As you know women’s lives matter more than men’s – an undeniable democratic and egalitarian fact it seems! Even though they have better immune system and life expectancy than men! Was it a single father with child in that position, the State would have simply remove the child from his custody and put him/her into care. Contrary to women, men can never use children to blackmail the State or women! The life of the man in this story however took a remarkable twist – after his divorce, he gradually works his butt up the ladder by building and mastering a successful green energy company and at last in his 50s manage against all expectations to become a self-made multi-millionaire! Here’s a man who had nothing – quite literally – but worked against all the odds all his life without the help of no wife to achieve success which he did in the latter part of his life. What did the wife do all this time? Of course she had a child and – that – is an incredible achievement in an equal society for a woman. This is what equality is about. So guess what’s happening now? Yes she’s seeking about 2 million pounds from her ex-husband for a divorce pronounced 32 years ago!!!!!

        Here’s the latest:

        Google it for a more complete view.

        In the UK men can be prosecuted for alledged rape that took place decades earlier and can be sued for divorce settlement decedes after the actual divorce has been settled!

        However I truly wish she’ll win her litigation. This should send the message home to men that their ex-wives can haunt them even years after divorce. Elsewhere this will set a precedent which would make marrying men like buying lottery tickets for women! The more you buy the more chances you have of winning! This blends well with female hypergamist sexuality which under current sexual neo-liberal policy has already given women free vend to their instinct of hooking up with alphas and potential alpha males! It would be fun to see 3 or more ex-wives fighting in court for a share of the bounty – that of a man’s hard work! What a masquerade!

        In other news the Welsh Assembly has passed legislation to “end violence against women”. The law will place responsibility on healcare, education and other institutions to recognise the “signs of ‘abuse'”. Another part of the bill forces schools to ‘educate’ children about abusive relationship. This is nothing new though. Such campaigns have been ran before in universities – their de facto modus operandi is to tell girls how victims should feel and to tell boys that by virtue of their gender and sexuality they will most likely become the abusers of girls if they aren’t careful and obedient (to women). The central tennet of the law rests on the presumption that the perceived rise of violence against women is purely the result of sexist stereotype ideas inculcated by a so-called patriarchy rather than the direct result of the destruction of the chivalric code gender-complementary model of sexual relations which have been replaced with a feminist equality model of sexual relations. Clearly this latter model is failing. While men get the blame for that (as usual) no one, however, dare ask whether women really want to be the equal sex and relinquish all claims to the benefits and privileges of being the fair sex!?!

        • Patriot on

          Very articulate, thanks. I hope every sensible person who reads this article, whether male or female, gives serious thought to your comments.

          But shit, man.. if I was the guy I would’ve given her the 2M and spent every 1 hour of my day for the next month ensuring that she would soon be back on the streets. It’s easy, especially if you’re dealing with a person who isn’t self-made. Guy’s worth 100mil+, it’s a piece of cake for him to execute.

          Big money comes only to those who deserve it. Career women can go fist themselves after office hours.

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