This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…


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This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
plumeria

I am a single woman in my late 20s with a career I hide from men because of articles like these that fuel such primitive behavior. I was forced into this mode of resourcefulness because I am the only other household earner in my immediate family with 4 other dependents of whom both are sick, whom I must provide for should anything happen to the primary earner. What a woman wouldn’t do for love of her family….

To get dates, I pretend I make a lot less than I do, tweak my chat to appear less intimidating, wear shorts and flip-flops all day, and don’t tell men what I do for a living. I do not discuss work, and always shrug it off when men ask me what I do. I tell them I’m a freelancer, when in truth, I am COO of a mission-critical company that services a global industry.

I look harmless enough, above-average in looks, wear lipgloss, flutter my eyelids, chuckle like a surfergirl, have a Hawaiian smile, ride a bicycle, wear sneakers, drive a retro junk, and hang out at the beach all day. And I’m very, very lonely because the moment I expose what I do for a living, they all run away like I have leukemia or leprosy.

What is wrong with men? Why can’t they get pass labels and numbers? I’m perfectly happy to close shop to be a mother and wife with a secret backyard enterprise, but as it stands, my clients treat me a lot better than dates do. 😦

08-24-2006 09:53 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
duerra

You could always send me your number, plumeria 😉

08-24-2006 09:58 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
plumeria

Are you sure you won’t run away when you see me in a suit?

08-24-2006 10:15 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
juliandroms

No, we’ll run away after waking up next to you the next morning.

AHAH I joke I joke.

Seriously, if you’re willing to be the money maker in the family, that would be fine with me, just so long as you also register for the draft, and realize that I’ll be the one taking the kids with me in case I decide to divorce you later.

Mahaha I joke I joke again!

Seriously, being a man, I know what assholes stay at home parents can be. Now if there were only a state which allows a couple to guarantee shared custody for one another after divorce in a prenup..

08-24-2006 10:43 AM

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Madrox

that’s a shame plumeria.

there are men out there who are not intimidated by a woman who is a professional, but you’ll never meet them if you pretend to be something you’re not.

08-24-2006 10:45 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
duerra

Not at all, plumeria. Though, one thing you may want to consider is being up front with guys right away. Without knowing the specifics of your history, they may be more turned off by the fact that you mislead them than what you actually do for a living, but I can’t judge, only state what is in front of me at the moment.

08-24-2006 10:48 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
plumeria

Well, I played the truth card for 5 years… I get the worse types of men interested… married, thrill-seeking, challenge-loving types when all I really want is a nice fellow, a big dog, and an island kitchen.

08-24-2006 11:11 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
plumeria

Oh, background details… New York-trained, living in Asia. I am an island girl at heart… grew up in the tropics. I am very down-to-earth, make a big mess in the kitchen, and love slobbering dogs. I am not pretending on that part. On conversations, most of the time people don’t understand me in Asia. I have to keep it simple for that very reason.

I just find that I am always instantly judged by my title, which is why I don’t like telling people I just met my job title… I tell them the industry I am in, that’s about it. I find it is worse when I hand out my business cards. My job does not define me, but people seem to be taken aback and go limp with intimidation for no good reason.

08-24-2006 11:27 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
duerra

All hope is not lost for you, but finding the right person takes time. I consider myself to be a nice and reasonable guy, with a medium-sized dog (AmStaff), in my 20’s, successful, and I have no idea what an island kitchen is, but I do have a kitchen nonetheless. It is important to remain honest with yourself and your potential partners, though – I don’t think hiding the truth isn’t going to fare any better for you in the long run because if you do find one of those genuine men, that same genuine man would probably not be too keen on the idea that you weren’t more honest with him up front in the first place. You want to find a guy that is open and honest with you, do you not? You’ve been honest here with us, and you’ve come across a respectable guy. We are out there, but it takes oh so much patience.

Message Edited by duerra on 08-24-2006 11:30 AM

08-24-2006 11:29 AM

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Re: This Article Is Grossly Unequivocal…
Madrox

nice.

island kitchens are the best. I’d even go so far as to say the solution to any marriage “on the rocks” is an island kitchen.

not necessarily a big dog though.. unless he’ll allow the Siamese cats to ride around on his back… without eating them..

08-24-2006 11:29 AM

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C2shiningC

Hey Plumeria, want to go out sometime? I’ve dated women who made twice my income, women 10-15yrs older, and one CNO. No biggie. You’re frank honesty is a plus in my book. As long as you’re not a strange person and you’re a great dinner conversationalist, I think we would get along just fine. Give me a call sometime!

09-02-2006 04:37 AM

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