Why is the man’s career not debatable?


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Why is the man’s career not debatable?
lifeessence

I’m amazed that the article only talks about how women must sacrifice careers in order to keep a healthy relationship. No where in the article does it suggest that the man should sacrifice or compromise his career to meet the needs of his family. Only that the woman’s career is clearly debatable. I don’t understand why this is an issue of woman versus man at all. Why not that both should make compromises in order to keep themselves satisfied? Obviously if you never make time for each other its going to be a problem. But why should the women always have to give in order to make things work? Why shouldn’t the man -and- the woman both take an extra hour out of their day to clean up the place or have a romantic dinner or whatever it is they want to do.

Why is the man’s job so sacred? My mom and dad both worked their whole lives and everything between the 3 of us turned out fine. Honestly, I think what it comes down to is that a lot of people in America were raised by mothers that stayed at home. Those kids have grown up and now feel more comfortable around women who will do the same. It makes sense. I’m not judging whether its “right” or “wrong”, its just an area of comfort for some people. More than anything, I’m just confused as to why this article expects all the sacrifice to come from women in order to have a harmonious relationship. I thought true “feminism” was about being equal to each other in life, love, and relationships and treating each other with mutual respect.

As for the studies the article quotes… well, I shouldn’t have to tell you that 95% of all statistics are made up.

08-23-2006 10:58 PM

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Re: Why is the man’s career not debatable?
JosieNutter

I agree; I find it disturbing that the idea of marriage being a partnership of equals seems to be beyond the scope of reasonable thinking for some.

Compromise is NOT a dirty word!

08-23-2006 11:49 PM

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Re: Why is the man’s career not debatable?
rykov

lifeessence wrote:

As for the studies the article quotes… well, I shouldn’t have to tell you that 95% of all statistics are made up.

Well, that figure is actually closer to 97.3%, but I’ll let it slide for now. However, the statistics sited did seem to be sound, but that was not what troubled me, it was the conclusions drawn from numbers in the ether. There are lies, **bleep** lies, and then there are statistics.

100% of all cancer patients have drunk the deadly Dihydrogen monoxide substance that covers an alarmingly large percentage of our planet. From that number it is clear that this H20 has a incredibly strong connection to the often fatal malady. In fact, people who consume no H20 or H20 related substances are almost universally free of death by cancer!

So, when someone says if you have a job in which you work more than 35 hours a week, you have 1.9 hours less of daily chores accomplished versus a non-working counterpart, you could interpret it many ways. The author of the article chose to use one angle, but its by no means the only way to look at things.

Oh, and Hi Josie, Chris O from the WIGD list.

Message Edited by rykov on 08-24-2006 12:50 AM

08-24-2006 12:41 AM

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Re: Why is the man’s career not debatable?
juliandroms

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> Why is it that only the woman’s career is clearly debatable.
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Well, the studies linked clearly show that divorce rates increase as the number of hours a woman works increases, but not as the number of hours a man works increases.

The studies also show that women are dissatisfied when their husbands make less money than them, but the men are not.

So I guess that’s the answer to you question. If you need more explanation than that, ask women! (Just a guess, it sounds like women don’t like working long hours. Is that surprising?)

08-24-2006 12:56 AM

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Re: Why is the man’s career not debatable?
lifeessence

And men really enjoy working long hours? Come on! No one does. I would hate it if my husband had to work longer hours than the standard work week. The only thing is, if I didn’t have my own income and my own means for independence, I’d be stuck with him in an unhappy marriage, putting up with his crazy career.

No, instead the article advocates that men should find women that will put up with anything they do and not give them crap about it. Career women will give you too much crap because they know too much. Don’t marry ’em.

All I can say is that this is such an old business world type of problem. I’m glad that in the computing industry, being such a young and new field, our mores are much more enlightened. We judge each other according to the work that gets done, not whether someone would go nicely with our suit and tie.

I hate the business world exactly for these kinds of attitudes. Money grubbers will give you problems – and THATS what it comes down to.

08-24-2006 09:38 AM

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