He’s Right – Don’t Marry A Career Woman…


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He’s Right – Don’t Marry A Career Woman…
CareerGal9
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CareerGal9
I have the utmost respect for woman who choose to stay at home and raise their children. In my opinion, that is a full-time job HOWEVER I am currently a single, career-focused woman. And I agree with Michael Noer.

Don’t marry a career woman if you don’t want anyone to share the financial responsibility of supporting a family.

Don’t marry a career woman if you don’t want an ambitious, motivated woman who likes to earn her own money and maintain a certain degree of independence.

Don’t marry a career woman if you don’t want to have an additional salary supporting you when something unfortunate happens to your career.

Gentlemen, I’m curious…in the following situation, wouldn’t you want to be married to a career woman? We live in a crazy world where corporate downsizing is an unfortunate reality. Men are not immune to this. If you were to be laid off, wouldn’t you be relieved to know that your wife still had an income to support you and your family? Or would you rather be stuck without any income? Tell me.

08-25-2006 09:49 AM

Re: He’s Right – Don’t Marry A Career Woman…
john_betelgeuse
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john_betelgeuse

CareerGal9 wrote:
Don’t marry a career woman if you don’t want to have an additional salary supporting you when something unfortunate happens to your career.

Gentlemen, I’m curious…in the following situation, wouldn’t you want to be married to a career woman? We live in a crazy world where corporate downsizing is an unfortunate reality. Men are not immune to this. If you were to be laid off, wouldn’t you be relieved to know that your wife still had an income to support you and your family? Or would you rather be stuck without any income? Tell me.

I’d rather be married.

There is a very high probability that if you are down sized, your “career wife” will divorce you, since you are now a drain on her.

Thankfully, non-career women can still get a job and help support the family during times of economic hardship (and learning to save money helps get you over those rough spots, too!).

The core flaw in Ms. Corcoran’s response is that she utterly fails to understand the difference between a personal anecdote and real, statistically based scientific study. In other words, just because it has worked out for her, doesn’t mean that her experience can be generalized to all career women.

By the way: been there, done that. I have a much happier, better marriage now that I’m married to my second (non-career!) wife than when I was married to my first (career oriented from birth) wife who cheated on me, abused me, had a child with a man she met on the job, and who divorced me when she had all of her career “ducks” lined up.

Often times a career woman’s first loyalty and duty is to her career, not her family.

08-25-2006 11:14 AM

Re: He’s Right – Don’t Marry A Career Woman…
Cassius
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Cassius
I would not mind beeing married to a career woman, problem is career women expect me to have a career as well with a minimum income and will settle with no less. But tell me why get married in the first place ? If a woman walks out on me because i refuse to marry she loves the security of marriage more than me and would have cheated on me anyway sooner or later.

08-25-2006 01:05 PM

Re: He’s Right – Don’t Marry A Career Woman…
chodeo
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chodeo

You have to be an idiot to honestly believe that Michael Noer’s arguments were based on any “real, statistically based scientific study.”

Take a few minutes to go lookup some of the “studies” Noer quotes.  By and large, they’re all a joke!  Many are mysteriously absent from the Internet, and of the ones that are, there’s nothing scientific at all about them.  For example:  Adrian Blow’s work on infidelity (available here:  http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qa3658/is_200504/ai_n13641667/pg_1) isn’t a “study” at all, instead it’s an aggregated analysis on the subject and Blow even conceeds in his openning paragraphs that there is “a surprising lack of robust and rigorous research on the topic.”

I’d challenge anyone who believes this drivel from Noer to dig up one valid scientific or statisitcally valid study and post it here.  Noer is a joke.

08-25-2006 01:06 PM

Re: He’s Right – Don’t Marry A Career Woman…
DudleyM
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DudleyM

john_betelgeuse wrote:

Thankfully, non-career women can still get a job and help support the family during times of economic hardship (and learning to save money helps get you over those rough spots, too!).

I think this is a rather unrealistic notion.  It is highly unlikely that a woman who has been out of work for a number of years would be able to acquire a job that would afford the family to keep their current lifestyle.  Blame it on whomever you like, but there is no room on a resume for cleaning house and/or raising kids for the majority of decent-paying jobs.  Additionally, it is likely that in this scenario she would face opposition from women who had been working their whole lives and even men.  While a majority on this board prefer a housewife for marriage, I doubt very many would prefer one for business.  You said it yourself:

Often times a career woman’s first loyalty and duty is to
her career, not her family.

Frankly, that is what employers are looking for, not someone who will jump ship the moment she can get back home.

I am sorry you had such a rough experience with your first wife, I can understand why such a cruel woman would make you insecure to date a career-minded woman again.

08-25-2006 02:25 PM

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