Where’s the logic?


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Where’s the logic?
Karma
Contributor
Karma
The rebuttal totally missed the mark. There was no arguing of the evidence so I’m going to assume the evidence stands on its own merit.

In a nutshell, Noer targetted his message to the overacheiving men. Telling them that a happy marriage is not likely with an overacheiving women. Then he backed it up with evidence.

To all those women saying it’s telling you to go back to the kitchen: well it doesn’t at all. It’s saying your choices have consequences.

I will concede that it was male-centric, so let’s take a look at how the article would flow from the female perspective.

Ladies, marry fat, short, tall or handsome men but whatever you do don’t marry a career man if you want a successful marriage. In fact studies show if you marry a man who makes less than you it won’t work either.

There you feel better now? No? Okay well what do you want? Oh you want it all? Hold that thought, let’s see what the guys want and see how we can compromise.

So guys what do you want from a women?
A loving wife who will create a sanctuary and nurture your children so they grow up as healthy responsible adults.

That’s asking a lot guys what do you have to offer?
Just love, money and security? Sorry guys but women don’t need that what else you got? Oh you’ll cut back your hours and take care of the kids yourself.

Well the ladies don’t date lazy bums. They will meet you half way though being fair and all. Just give up the kids and the sanctuary and we got a deal.

Sorry ladies guys said no deal, they did come back with a counter proposal though he’s willing to let you work less. Oh your career is the most important thing in your life?

That’s okay Ma’am I understand, careers are very fufilling. But the guys said there going to go shop around a bit more. Don’t call us we’ll call you.

Keep in mind: Mr. and Mrs. 100 hours a week can work out okay, but something has gotta give. The kids maybe, oh yeah forgot to ask them what they want. What’s that they want what you say they want fair enough they’re not even going to be born. At least you won’t have to worry about them harrasing you at the old age home. Probably just scare the cats anyway.

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disclaimer:
No cats were harmed in the writing of this article.

08-25-2006 02:06 PM

Re: Where’s the logic?
velo_blues
Visitor
velo_blues
LOL! Great post–rawk on!

08-25-2006 02:09 PM

Re: Where’s the logic?
dazed-confused
Newbie
dazed-confused
Right on.

Spaulding wrote:
I am all for marrying a career woman. Call me a liberated man of the new millenium, but I would love to stay home, raise the kids, keep the house in order (or pay someone to do it), have lunch with my friends and play a lot of golf and/or tennis. If there are any career women out there who are looking for a guy like me please do not hesitate to drop me a line.

Message Edited by dazed-confused on 08-25-2006 02:14 PM

08-25-2006 02:13 PM

Re: Where’s the logic?
thisisdumb
Visitor
thisisdumb

Where’s the logic indeed?

Or how about old-fashioned common sense?

People who place career over family tend to marry each other, if at all and then usually have few or no kids.  Yuppies, I believe they were once called. A man who believes in family and home as a priority in his life won’t marry a woman who is work-obessed, same as a woman who wants an involved father to her children will have an eye on his work habits as well. The CEO and his trophy wife who cares not that he is never home are such a small segment of society, they are hardly worth all this debate. The reality of many working families with a stay at home mom is a husband who works 80 hours a week, is chained to his crackberry, checking voicemail at 11 pm and is no family man by any stretch. Yet, this is often what it takes to climb the corporate ladder and support non-career wives. Forbes is obviously not going to question this lifestyle. Its insanity in many ways. So, Forbes has come up with an equally insane solution: pretend that college-educated men are going to start again marrying women with high school educations and low salaries. In an era where outsourcing is a constant worry for white collar workers, retirement is a disaster waiting to happen and health care is often a luxury for even middle class people.

Right.

Who benefits from all this? Studies also show that men with families they alone support tend to work harder, longer hours than all those pesky leaving-small-unimportant-meetings-for-junior’s-little-league-game dads with career wives. Perhaps that’s the real threat here-corporate profits. Women who work are increasingly clamoring for flexible work/life options. For now, they can be marginalized and largely discredited for being “selfish”. Men who want the same thing would have to be taken seriously and are a real threat. Much better that they marry women who are economically dependent on them. Much better perhaps for the corporate bottom line.

08-25-2006 03:07 PM

Re: Where’s the logic?
Karma
Contributor
Karma

thisisdumb wrote:
People who place career over family tend to marry each other, if at all and then usually have few or no kids.

And then get divorced.

Also I didn’t see where they advocated marrying people you don’t find stimulating. Last i checked us stuffed shirts don’t have a monopoly on that.

I do agree with you on the corporate insanity. Last I heard Americans are now working harder than the Japanese. We’re just that competivie so I don’t see men clamoring for less hours anytime soon.

In the end it’s just about choices, hopefully they’ll be informed, intelligent and bring you happiness

08-25-2006 04:35 PM

Re: Where’s the logic?
Atowngal
Visitor
Atowngal

Dead on, Karma. There are costs to these choices, but honestly you don’t understand some of them until you arrive at that new point in your life. My choice to use my degree was partly not to insult my parents after they paid of it. Part of choice was based on fear; fear of becoming one of the abandoned house wifes. The one’s that made the right choice for her young family, but also paid for it later. After hearing story, after story, the fear won. I’m successful, stressed, and balancing some how. The stats are against it, but I fight a hard fight.

08-27-2006 07:47 PM

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