You keep your career, I keep my health, thank you, good bye!


Reader Response to “Don’t Marry Career Women” – You keep your career, I keep my health, thank you, good bye!

You keep your career, I keep my health, thank you, good bye!
Democles
Regular Contributor
Democles

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An article in the December 4, l988 Los Angeles Times Magazine, dealing with the lifestyle of six Los Angeles women who “had it all,” “the personal stories of six women who have found success,” indicated that the six women had altogether a total of two children, both offspring of one woman married to a househusband and employing a full-time live-in housekeeper. A l985 survey showed that executive females–of all women those most at liberty to be their true selves and exhibit “long- term disciplines of female nature” (if they have them)–were three- fourths divorced or single, and that only 20 percent of them were in their first marriages (versus 64 percent of male executives who were in their first marriages.) Ms. Friedan interprets such female independence as showing that money is a “love-spoiler.” She is thinking of men’s money as inhibiting women’s promiscuity. From the man’s point of view, it is the woman’s money which is the love-spoiler, or at least the marriage and maternity spoiler. It is the man’s aim to integrate love, marriage and maternity into family life, using the male paycheck as the binder; but these economically and sexually emancipated women are able to use their own paychecks to avoid such commitment to marriage and maternity. The birthrate of such women is minuscule, their divorce rate is far higher than that of economically dependent wives, as is their adultery rate, otherwise known as “a woman’s right to control her own body.” The answer to the question “Where are the men for women like us?” is that there aren’t many, because most men want families–because it is men, not women, or not autonomous women, who have the long-term sexual horizons.

If men are not deflected from such women by their statistics for divorce and adultery, they might be deflected by those on coronary heart disease. According to the Framingham Heart Study, men married to women with thirteen or more years of education were 2.6 times more likely to have coronaries. If these women are in addition liberated to work outside the home the men are 7.6 times more likely to have coronaries.

Men ought to avoid such women as they avoid the plague, the Internal Revenue Service, nuclear waste and low-density lipoproteins. Understandably, feminists and house-males hold a different view.

08-25-2006 09:07 AM

Re: You keep your career, I keep my health, thank you, good bye!
VPat33
Visitor
VPat33

Perhaps, dear men, you are overlooking the basic fact that women who are empowered, aggressive and intelligent enough to maintain successful careers are also the types to have very high standards, expectations and goals.  If you are unable to meet those goals, we will leave you – because we can.  We no longer need men to pay our bills and give us a place in society.

I am a young VP who has often worked 70-hr weeks, traveled extensively, and have always made more money than my husband.  I’m not saying it’s always easy to balance marriage and a career, but marriage is rarely easy, no matter the circumstances.

The most important thing is that I am with my husband because I love him and can’t imagine being without him.  I respect who he is as a person, no matter the amount of money he makes.  We have a great life together. Period.

Women without careers, who stay home to raise children, are very often trapped – trapped in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage, trapped financially and economically, trapped socially (because all of their friends are also in the same situation).  So true, the divorce rate might be lower in comparison, but let’s look at the reasons that’s the case.  My husband would rather spend time with a woman who loves him and wants to be with him, than someone who is just with him because she has no choice.

All marriages involve compromise.  But in the end, the important thing is for both parties to be happy.  I don’t have children – don’t want them – and my husband knew that when we married.  Instead, we travel the world, spend amazing time with one another, are passsionate about the same hobbies and causes, and find new things to love about one another every day.  Can you say the same about your marriage?

In conclusion, if you aren’t confident enough and strong enough to marry a career woman, than I would agree – don’t.  Save the career-women the headaches of divorce – and leave us to find REAL men who can partner successfully with smart and ambitious women.

08-25-2006 09:49 AM

Re: You keep your career, I keep my health, thank you, good bye!
Hedgie
Regular Contributor
Hedgie

“In conclusion, if you aren’t confident enough and strong enough to marry a career woman, than I would agree – don’t.  Save the career-women the headaches of divorce – and leave us to find REAL men who can partner successfully with smart and ambitious women.”

I agree! In fact I would encourage men to ignore career women altogether. Not only is it in a man’s best interests (emotionally, morally, biologically, financially) to avoid self-absorbed career women, but it is also in society’s best interests to insure that such women do not reproduce, that they remain alone and childless.

08-25-2006 09:54 AM

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