Reality vs. Rubbish!


Reader Response to “Don’t Marry Career Women” – Reality vs. Rubbish!

Reality vs. Rubbish!
Back2TheKitchen
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Back2TheKitchen
Why do women mistakenly assume that what women want in a partner is what men want as well?

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DonnaLemmon:
After reading the article, I can only say, “Wow.” I cannot believe that there are men who really think along the lines of the author. The very fact that he sought to prove such an argument speaks volumes of his character and what lives (sic) has unfortunately brought him.

leeraconteur:
There are millions of men who think like the author. Most of them are busy earning a living, which is why you haven’t heard from them in the form of protests, marches and political campaigns. No amount of shaming language will change our minds. This is what we want and if you don’t wish to be that type of a woman, there are 3.5 billion other women on the planet who do want to.

DonnaLemmon:
I am a 38-year-old single woman who has an MBA from a very prestigious business school, and I am a Project Director for a Fortune 500 company.

leeraconteur:
Most successful men already have the same qualities you possess. They have a good education, a well-paying career, and the responsibility that goes with this. Thus, they don’t have a need for the same qualities – it is the law of comparative advantage. What a successful man needs is a helpmate who will put the relationship, marriage and children first. He does not need someone who is his mirror image. By spending your most fertile years of 16-26 getting an MBA and climbing the corporate ladder, you have unwittingly wasted your best chances at having a family. This is not my opinion – it is a biological fact that female fertility peaks at 26 or 27 and declines thereafter. By the age of 35 most women have a greatly reduced chance of conceiving. By age 38 your chances of conceiving are declining by about 5% a month. If you doubt this, talk to your OB-Gyn.

DonnaLemmon:
I have kissed a lot of frogs, but I’ve yet to find my prince. Why is this? It could be that I deserve it all, and will take nothing less than perfection.

leeraconteur:
It could be that you don’t deserve it all, and that you have raised your expectations beyond that of the almost all of the men you meet. If you raise your expectations beyond what reality conveys, then it is up to you to comport your outlook to reality, not the obverse.

I know that it is foolish and unrealistic to expect that I will marry someone of the likes of Jessica Biel, as I am only earning $85k as a lowly Controller of a muliti-million dollar construction company. I don’t think this is the fault of women – it is reality and I comport my expectations to come in line. Perhaps you should do the same.

DonnaLemmon:
Perfection is out there, ladies. Why can’t we have the whole package? Only an educated, tall, attractive, financially-secure, sensitive man can fill the shoes of my suitor, and it is what I seek. But they’re evidently hard to find.

leeraconteur:
If you have been looking for a man with theses qualities for 15 years and haven’t found him, perhaps this type of man doesn’t exist except in your imagination and the pages of women’s magazines. You have proven the scarcity of such a man – perhaps it is time to change your expectations and settle. Men have done this for centuries. We know that you cannot have it all, and to insist upon such is childish and immature. If we want the great career, we know that the sacrifices will entail 60-70 hour weeks, massive stress and missed time with our children as they grow up.

If we want to spend large amounts of time with our families as they grow, then we have to sacrifice income, job titles and prestige.

This is called being an adult and accepting the consequences of our choices.

Men know that most of us have only had jobs, and that few men have ever had a fulfilling, enjoyable career. To insist upon such is a luxury that providing for a family has not afforded men, yet women such as yourself seem incapable of realising this fact.

DonnaLemmon:
I consider myself staunchly a career woman who will make a great wife.

leeraconteur:
This is a contradiction. Your actions have demonstrated over the past 15+ years that what you value is your career, your education, your success, your achievements, your MBA, your prestigious degree. You, you, you. You have not demonstrated any ability to put a family, husband, and children first. Thus the men who want a family are seeking out women who ably demonstrate a desire and willingness to happily create one.

DonnaLemmon:
There are some points that won’t make me a June-Cleaver-1950s wife, but I will definitely meet any criteria any good man would consider a dependable partner in life. For example, I do not do housework, that is why staff is hired.

leeraconteur:
Surely this is a joke. Who do you think is cleaning a man’s house? He is. Men cook, clean and perform household chores now, and we know that it isn’t hard work and doesn’t take hardly anytime at all.

DonnaLemmon:
Why should a man care who does the housework as long as it is done?

leeraconteur:
Because most men don’t want a stranger to rear their children, they want a loving, committed, family oriented wife to do it and make a house into a home.

DonnaLemmon:
The same goes with cooking meals. I am not a cook! My sister tells me that I can’t even boil water right! Shoot me!

leeraconteur:
Men want a woman who will be a good helpmate, cook, clean and rear children. Most men cannot afford a raft of servants, as only 6% of men earn over 100,000 a year, and those men work long hours and are usually not sensitive.

DonnaLemmon:
I have many other skills that I can bring to a relationship, as with most career woman. I am strong. I am decisive. I am comfortable within my own space and would love to meet someone with which to share it, but I don’t find many men who could genuinely be a fitting counterpart.

leeraconteur:
That’s because we don’t want what you are offering. You don’t intimidate us, we aren’t afraid of strong women; we just don’t want those qualities in a wife. You have mistakenly assumed that what women want in a partner is what men want as well. Women want a man with a degree, a succesful career, who is strong, decisive and comfortable within his own space. Many like yourself have mistakenly swallowed feminist propaganda that this is what men want as well.

Wrong.

Men want a feminine wife who will be a good helpmate, mother and make a house into a home. You have none of these qualities.

DonnaLemmon:
So I submit to my audience and the author. Perhaps women have evolved at speeds with which men cannot compete.

leeraconteur:
Then you will die without having procreated, and your ideas, mindset and lifestyle will die with you. Perhaps you should adjust to reality and accept what is, rather than some unrealistic fantasy of how the world should be.

Perhaps MEN are the problem? All I see coming from men (in the article, on this site, and dates on which I’ve attended) is the same-old “women are weaker, so I must be strong for them.” It’s nauseating, men. You need to change to adjust to feminism, because it will be around longer than you. The 21st century woman is very different from that of the 1950s.

leeraconteur:
Then we will find a wife who will bring the qualities to our family that we desire, and your anti-family mindset will die with you.

Donna, this isn’t about what is fair; men want a feminine helpmate wife and if you don’t want to be one, there is a planet full of women who do.

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“With women or the female mindset imparted through feminization on the vast majority of society, it will be very easy to control the Empire…I mean…the republic.” – mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com

08-25-2006 04:02 PM

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