He has a point


Reader Response to “Don’t Marry Career Women” – He has a point

He has a point
brukerbabe
Newbie
brukerbabe
When I think of the term career woman, I think of someone who does not simply have a job, but someone who excels in her career, is at the top of her field, and generally making a success of it.
If you want a traditional marriage (and Noer apparently does) someone who has spent a great deal of time and energy in their career is not likely to give it up without a thought or allow their career to become secondary to their spouse’s.

But then I have difficulty understanding the appeal of the traditional marriage.
A career woman is unlikely to become financially dependent. So no alimony, or even the financial headaches of having to support another person.
They are likely to stay active and have interests outside childrearing and cleaning. Which makes conversation more interesting.
They are likely to be concerned about their presentation and continue to use a gym membership.
Two incomes means overall more disposable income in the household. Better vacations, better toys.

So why is the traditional marriage a good deal again?

08-28-2006 05:16 PM

Re: He has a point
mediaman
Contributor
mediaman
Two incomes MIGHT have saved my marriage.

The loss of income that occured after the tech crash of 2000/2001 resulted in finanicial ruin for my family and the subsequent divorce (perhaps).

08-28-2006 05:28 PM

Re: He has a point
Termi0n
Regular Contributor
Termi0n

“A career woman is unlikely to become financially dependent.”
We dont mind if our wives depend on us.

“They are likely to stay active and have interests outside childrearing and cleaning. Which makes conversation more interesting.”
Whatever.

“They are likely to be concerned about their presentation and continue to use a gym membership.”
My wife can go to the gym after she’s done cleaning the house. Or I can get her a treadmil.

“Two incomes means overall more disposable income in the household. Better vacations, better toys.”
A good traditional woman is worth far more than vacations and toys.

Message Edited by Termi0n on 08-28-2006 05:36 PM

Women want fried ice. -Arab Proverb

08-28-2006 05:35 PM

Re: He has a point
brukerbabe
Newbie
brukerbabe
Things are always easier without financial strain. And I think all couples fight about money. It’s just easier for each person to have their own money to do their own thing with.

08-28-2006 05:35 PM

Re: He has a point
brukerbabe
Newbie
brukerbabe
Supporting another person in a relationship is an individual choice. If you are someone who doesn’t mind it, then a traditional relationship is likely for you.
If your priority is having someone to look after you, then that’s the kind of relationship you should have.
Frankly I don’t see the appeal, or know many happy traditional relationships. I know a lot of disgruntled married people, the women have gotten heavy and are starved for adult interaction and often on prozac and the men have gotten financially bitter and bored.

I know there are happy traditional marriages out there. I just doubt that today, in our culture, there are very many.

08-28-2006 05:48 PM

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