I think both articles are partially correct


Reader Response to “Don’t Marry Career Women” – I think both articles are partially correct

I think both articles are partially correct
fosnock
Visitor
fosnock
Women you need to realize that some men do not think a career women is the right choice for marriage. If your career minded why would you choose to marry such a person? After all he can’t hit you on the head and drag you to his cave. You also need to realize that if you’re a career women you will add additional stress, and more complex variables to a relationship. Simply calling upon each other to “Don’t Marry A Lazy Man” does not reduce the additional stress load caused by your career. The fact that you choose to add stress to your relationship but deny that it has any barring on the outcome of that relationship is ridicules. Elizabeth Corcoran states that “So, guys, if you’re game for an exciting life, go ahead and marry a professional gal.” Does she think that a more stressful relationship is somehow more exciting? In other words she feels that the additional stress and variables in a woman’s career does not directly correlate to the increased divorce rate. In all these cases the women simply married a lazy man.

Now saying that the main argument to “Don’t Marry Career Women” seems to be avoiding the additional relationship stresses. This is a valid point, but Michael Noer only capitalizes on the negatives of marrying a career woman, and even then he seems to distort common sense. I read in his article that women “even those with a “feminist” outlook- are happier” when they stay home. We cannot take this comment at face value, because if it were true, it would mean that most if not all women should be willing to give up their careers in order to have a happier life, and there would be no career women to marry. As this is clearly not the case, it must indicate that the study is flawed. I also read that the divorce rate is lower for men who marry non-career women. Statistically that may be true, but this is what investors call risk avoidance. If you stick all your money in the bond market you will not lose it but neither will you make a massive monetary gain. In order to make the big bucks you need to take some risk with your money. The key to investing is to pick the right investment, and the key to marriage is to pick the right person. Only a fool would allow a talking head to tell them where to invest, and only a greater fool would allow one to tell them what type a person they should marry.

08-28-2006 05:39 PM

Re: I think both articles are partially correct
Pam
Regular Visitor
Pam
Thanks fosnock–a very sane reply! Wish I had you for my investment manager–cheers, Pam

08-28-2006 07:20 PM

Re: I think both articles are partially correct
zacharias
Regular Contributor
zacharias
” After all he can’t hit you on the head and drag you to his cave. ”

So, all men who might not find a career woman to be the ideal mate are nothing but neanderthals out to hit women in the head and drag them into his cave?

I’m glad to see the dialogue progressing to such enlightened levels.

08-28-2006 09:00 PM

Re: I think both articles are partially correct
C2shiningC
Contributor
C2shiningC

Good post. Finally some rational dialogue. One correction though: Michael did not say that women “even those with a ‘feminist’ outlook” are happier when they stay home, he stated they’re happier when the “husband is the primary breadwinner.”

08-29-2006 01:15 AM

==============================================================================
Click on the board or message subject at the top to return.

Advertisements
%d bloggers like this: