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Rejection Hurts Women …
kblogger
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kblogger

.. too bad!!

All these women complaining on this forum are just reacting to being rejected by someone they were not interested in the first place.

When will these women grow up and take rejection LIKE A MAN!

08-28-2006 08:09 AM

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moneyneversleep
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moneyneversleep

I find it amusing that these harpies are angry that most men are not attracted to them as potential partners.  Sure, they may be good for roll in the hay, but that is it.

08-28-2006 11:13 AM

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ftesyektsi
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ftesyektsi

*laughing*

reading those two posts was like watching a couple of pinch-faced boys in a playground screaming, “Neener neener neener!”

Grow up, will ya?

08-28-2006 11:18 AM

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moneyneversleep
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moneyneversleep

We are sorry you are an angry woman, fat and fugly.  Now go fetch your stick.

08-28-2006 11:19 AM

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Romulus
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Romulus
In its most simple form, selecting a spouse all boils down to getting the right person for the job. Men can get sex and companionship without marriage. Men only need marriage to start and raise a family. This is the job requirement. Whom do you hire? the woman who puts starting and raising a family as her number one priority or the woman who puts her career as her number one priority. Both options can work, but one is more suited simply b/c she fits the job requirement better. There’s less chance of conflict, less chance of resentment, less chance of unhappiness, and a less chance of divorce. You find the person who best fits the job, you don’t fit the job around the person.

Message Edited by Romulus on 08-28-2006 11:26 AM

08-28-2006 11:20 AM

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ftesyektsi
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ftesyektsi

moneyneversleep wrote:
We are sorry you are an angry woman, fat and fugly.  Now go fetch your stick.

Tut tut, little boy.  You’re showing your mental age.

08-28-2006 11:27 AM

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ftesyektsi
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ftesyektsi

Romulus wrote:
In its most simple form, selecting a spouse all boils down to getting the right person for the job. Men can get sex and companionship without marriage. Men only need marriage to start and raise a family. This is the job requirement. Whom do you hire? the woman who puts starting and raising a family as her number one priority or the woman who puts her career as her number one priority. Both options can work, but one is more suited simply b/c she fits the job requirement better. There’s less chance of conflict, less chance of resentment, less chance of unhappiness, and a less chance of divorce. You find the person who best fits the job, you don’t fit the job around the person.

Message Edited by Romulus on 08-28-2006 11:26 AM

Nicely said.  Same goes for women, which is what seems to irk some men.  They, too, can get sex and companionship w/o marriage, and when it comes time to raise a family, as long as both partners can come to an arrangement with regard to fair distribution of duties, they’ll probably do quite well.

What’s needed is a genuine respect for one another, and for neither one to take the other for granted.  I suspect that – and this has been studied and documented (will look for links, if need be) – many issues arise when men expect women, after working all day (just like the men), to come home and do the majority of the housekeeping and childrearing, when there’s no reason the work can’t be divided equally.

IF a man wants a woman who’ll stay at home, then of course it would be dumb of him to marry a career woman.  Just like it would be dumb for a career woman to marry a man who’ll suddenly decide he wants her to give up her job and live for him and babies.  Some are suited for that lifestyle, and some aren’t.

Nothing wrong with it.

08-28-2006 11:31 AM

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marymmac
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marymmac
Call me a romantic- but all this talk of choosing the person right for the job and having a healthy respect for one another… that’s all great and needed- but what about love? I mean, the purpose of spending your life with someone is not that we have a job for them in our lives or we respect them as a person. It’s that we love them and we don’t want to live a life where they aren’t part of it. Either way the ball falls for the woman- career or home- the marriage will fail without love.
Maybe some have yet to experience true love and if you havent- keep looking. It’s worth it. Forget job status and statistics- fall in love and get over the rest. Don’t listen to some article- even if you think knowledge is power or that stats like this will help you keep that 50% of your stuff in a divorce. Love someone.

Like I said- call me a romantic- I just think it’s odd that the idea of love behind a marriage hasn’t come up yet.

08-28-2006 01:16 PM

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moneyneversleep
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moneyneversleep

Women marry for security first and love a distant second.  Conversely, if you are a man and love is your 1st/primary criteria for selecting a partner you are making a serious mistake that will likely end badly.  There are a few rules which would be smart for any man to observe:

1.  Never marry before the age of 35.
2.  Never marry before you have purchased a home and established a retirement account.
3.  Never marry someone you met in your own workplace.
4.  Always have a prenuptial agreement which is reviewed the counsel for both parties and put off marriage for at least 6 months after a prenuptial is executed.
5.  Never allow your career earnings or assets prior to marriage to be attached in the event of a divorce.
6.  Have all your playing behind you, you are getting married, do it right.
7.  Only get married if you intend to have children, otherwise there is no benefit to you.  Realistically, there is no benefit to man at any time but it benefits children to have a 2 parent household and to not be raised by single mothers.
8.  Have detailed discussions and counseling before marriage regarding finances, children, expectations of each other, what you both will tolerate and will not tolerate.
9.  Take any money you would spend on an extravagant wedding and put it toward another piece of property or an investment.

08-28-2006 01:29 PM

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ftesyektsi
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ftesyektsi

marymmac wrote:
Call me a romantic- but all this talk of choosing the person right for the job and having a healthy respect for one another… that’s all great and needed- but what about love? I mean, the purpose of spending your life with someone is not that we have a job for them in our lives or we respect them as a person. It’s that we love them and we don’t want to live a life where they aren’t part of it. Either way the ball falls for the woman- career or home- the marriage will fail without love.
Maybe some have yet to experience true love and if you havent- keep looking.

True love includes respect.  You can love someone, or think you love someone, and not respect them enough to value their needs and/or wants.  A woman can truly believe she loves a man, but will in the same breath nag him for more money, a (scoff) “upgrade” on her engagement ring, and treat him like a child.

Likewise, a man can claim to have all the love in the world for a woman, but will question that love if she doesn’t devote enough of her life to caring for HIM.

That’s where true respect is needed, and appreciation.  True love is not just flowers and flutterbyes…there is an element of rationale involved, too, because you’re still two people dealing with one another as individuals with personal agendas.

08-28-2006 01:45 PM

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ftesyektsi
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ftesyektsi

moneyneversleep wrote:
Women marry for security first and love a distant second.  Says who?  Not if they’re career women!  Conversely, if you are a man and love is your 1st/primary criteria for selecting a partner you are making a serious mistake that will likely end badly.  There are a few rules which would be smart for any man to observe:

1.  Never marry before the age of 35. Good rule for women, too.
2.  Never marry before you have purchased a home and established a retirement account.  Another good rule for women.
3.  Never marry someone you met in your own workplace.  Another good dual-gender rule.
4.  Always have a prenuptial agreement which is reviewed the counsel for both parties and put off marriage for at least 6 months after a prenuptial is executed.  And another.
5.  Never allow your career earnings or assets prior to marriage to be attached in the event of a divorce.   Yet another.
6.  Have all your playing behind you, you are getting married, do it right.  You too, ladies!
7.  Only get married if you intend to have children, otherwise there is no benefit to you.  Realistically, there is no benefit to wo(man) at any time but it benefits children to have a 2 parent household and to not be raised by a single parent.
8.  Have detailed discussions and counseling before marriage regarding finances, children, expectations of each other, what you both will tolerate and will not tolerate.
9.  Take any money you would spend on an extravagant wedding and put it toward another piece of property or an investment.  Agreed – extravagant weddings are a bit-time waste of money.

What confuses me is why you list these as rules for MEN when they very much benefit anyone thinking about marriage, man or woman.

Message Edited by ftesyektsi on 08-28-2006 01:51 PM

08-28-2006 01:50 PM

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moneyneversleep
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moneyneversleep

So you can be reasonable, if you try. That is refreshing.

08-28-2006 03:22 PM

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ftesyektsi
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ftesyektsi

moneyneversleep wrote:
So you can be reasonable, if you try. That is refreshing.

You don’t know me well enough to act as if my reasonableness is “new.”  Unless what I’m to take from this is that you assume anyone who blatantly disagrees with you is being “unreasonable” (which wouldn’t surprise me a bit).

08-28-2006 04:01 PM

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moneyneversleep
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moneyneversleep

I am only putting logic out there, leave it to someone who is wholly unintelligent and childlike to find it unreasonable.

08-29-2006 10:09 AM

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