Want a housewife? Research results!


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Want a housewife? Research results!
MartianBachelor
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MartianBachelor
In a thread a day or so ago I came up with the crazy idea that it might be interesting to do a search at match.com using just the word “housewife”.

I had to search out to a distance of 400 miles to get even a small sample. I searched over the age range from 22 to 40, and the only other restriction was that they have a photo (doesn’t everyone now?).

When I did the search without a keyword it came up with 50 pages of possible candidates fitting this very broad criteria. At ten profiles per page that’s a pool of 500 candidates. I’m not sure that the actual number isn’t larger and match.com just maxes out at 50 pages. With the keyword, it came up with six profiles:

1) letbefriend – born in Vietnam but grew up in the US (looks to be half african-american); she claims she can be “a demure and adoring housewife”.

2) artsychique (Ya got any gum?) – divorced with 2 kids; “…having a hard time meeting QUALITY men. if you have a warrant out for your arrest please do not contact me lol… I have already been married once and don’t wish to be a housewife or someones…little lady … I don’t want to pick-up your dirty socks…”
– `nuf said

3) dancenqn – “A fairy tale girl looking for her knight… I have never been married and don’t have any children. I would love to be a housewife and a mother some day.” Owns a childrens dance company. The obvious gem of the group if you’re into “old-fashioned christian” blondes.

4) lcbrneyedgrl – separated w/3 kids; “i was a housewife and at home mom, but now I am ready and looking to join the work force!!! … I am not looking for anything serious [though she “loves romance” and romance novels aka female porn] as I just got out of a long relationship. I am looking for someone to share time with, to be friends with, to talk to, hang out, to listen and just BE with. I want…”
– not exactly career woman material

5) teacher82601 – “I’m looking for someone who can handle an idependent woman [even if she’s a teacher who can’t spell] … I don’t want to be a housewife.”
– `nuf said, though she does say “I want to share in things from paying for dinner to cooking dinner,” which is a point in her favor. Has pictures of her with her cat!

6) princessddp – “I don’t really have issues, just sick of being used by men. I haven’t dated in a while, have had a few long term serious relationships but almost every guy has cheated on me so I guess I have issues there … I am really good at my job but it isn’t what I think I really want to do but I haven’t found a guy who just wants a housewife yet.”
– shouldn’t there be a law against BBW “princesses”? Has pictures with her dog, who I hope she really likes.

So there you go. Out of 500 candidates there were but three who said they wanted to be a housewife. That’s 0.6%, a number which should be contrasted with the much higher percentage of women in the country who actually are housewives. Since I live out in the conservative/religious provinces (“fly-over country” to many of you), I’m surprised the number of hits is as low as it is. So does this mean women lie, or that they just don’t know what they really want, or that feminism has made the word “housewife” into a Bad Thing? (good research always turns up more questions…)
Anyway, two definitely didn’t want to be a housewife to an extent that they thought it was worth mentioning, and for one (#4) it’s not clear she’s really in the game.

Just for a quick comparison I did a search on the keyword “soulmate” and came up with 141 hits. Perusing one or two of these makes me willing to believe a significant percentage of women may actually want to be housewives but just don’t use that one word to describe it. Perhaps one needs to search for conservative or ultra-conservative (or non-conformist?) politics… after doing so I still had 50 pages of hits (one of which had read Joshua Harris’s book).

Make of this what you will. It turned out a little different than I’d expected, but it’s only a tentative and preliminary sort of investigation.

So, who’s gonna fix me up with artsychique? :>

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“The loudest, most strident voices calling women weak, stupid, and incapable of competing in the world at large are the feminists.” – zed the zen priest

08-30-2006 09:00 AM

Re: Want a housewife? Research results!
Isis
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Isis
I think an explanation of your results is pretty straightforward.

People, men and women, don’t like housework. It is repetitive, it is unending. I find it be be Sisyphian. There are exceptions of course, people who find housework to be contemplative and restful. But most people don’t like housework.

It sounds like you want a maid more than you want a wife or “soulmate”. Maybe you should just hire a maid?

You wrote:

Just for a quick comparison I did a search on the keyword “soulmate” and came up with 141 hits. Perusing one or two of these makes me willing to believe a significant percentage of women may actually want to be housewives but just don’t use that one word to describe it.

Your logic eludes me here. Just because a woman wants a “soulmate” does not mean she wants to be a housewife.

You realize, that if people acted like grownups, two adults could be together, have interesting and fulfilling careers and hire a cleaning person. That, to me, sounds wonderful.

However, I wonder how many men would find this wonderful. I suspect that alot of men in this board would not, although I am not sure why.

08-30-2006 09:09 AM

Re: Want a housewife? Research results!
MartianBachelor
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MartianBachelor
A) I’m not looking for a maid, housewife, someone to do housework, or anything. As I’ve stated in numerous other posts around here, I believe men should not put their assets at risk (if they have those) by having anything to do with women, because married or not you’re vulnerable beyond what any possible benefits might justify. I was only trying to clarify some of the issues raised by the original article and the discussions here about a day ago.

B) It’s about more than just housework. The term I actually searched under includes the notion of being a stay-at-home mom, a wife, and other things I’m sure you’re aware of. I don’t know why you’re focused on the dishes and the laundry.

C) You’re misunderstanding me… No, I did not say because a woman wants a “soulmate” means she wants to be a housewife. Please read exactly what I wrote before you get all snitty. I was searching under a term that I knew was popular with women, and then perusing the details of a few sample profiles just to see what was in them. When you combine “soulmate” with a checked ON box for ultra-conservative or conservative politics you turn up rather traditional and frequently very Godly women who essentially say many things in the neighborhood of housewife except the word itself. For the record, these are not my tastes in the least, and it might not be an exaggeration to even use the terms matter and anti-matter in this regard.

I cannot think of anything more tawdry than claiming to be an adult by hiring out the cleaning of your toilet to the lower orders and colored races, but that’s your biz and just my opinion…

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“The loudest, most strident voices calling women weak, stupid, and incapable of competing in the world at large are the feminists.” – zed the zen priest

08-30-2006 09:33 AM

Re: Want a housewife? Research results!
Hedgie
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Hedgie

They sound like winners.

“Soulmate.” That term always makes me laugh, as if such a person actually existed. Why do women fall for this crap?

Romance and sentiment, I would argue, are partly to blame for the predicament we’re in.

08-30-2006 09:53 AM

Re: Want a housewife? Research results!
HappyMom
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HappyMom

MartianBachelor wrote:
I’m surprised the number of hits is as low as it is. So does this mean women lie, or that they just don’t know what they really want, or that feminism has made the word “housewife” into a Bad Thing? (good research always turns up more questions…)
Anyway, two definitely didn’t want to be a housewife to an extent that they thought it was worth mentioning, and for one (#4) it’s not clear she’s really in the game.

They may not know what they want or that it is ok to want it. Probably they have been sent the wrong messages all their lives and not been told its OK to want to be a wife and mother. I know I had to learn the hard way after wasting my time ans sipnning my wheels(although I wouldn’t have met my husband otherwise and he is great!)

The problem is home ec is no longer encouraged in schools, feminine qualities are shunned in general and gilrs are encourage to squash their own dreams in order to puruse a feminist (aka godless and socialist) ideal that doesn’t mesh well with their own nature. Hence the unhappiness and long strings of unsatisfying relationships they find themselves in.

08-30-2006 10:28 AM

Re: Want a housewife? Research results!
MartianBachelor
Regular Contributor
MartianBachelor
I almost forgot -By chance I ran across a gal from Boca Raton! I wondered if the notorious BocaMan is as infamous as he claims, if she by chance knew him, or knew of him or the place where he hung out. Anyway, it was weird because I only looked at a half dozen or so profiles beyond the “housewife” hits, and there was Boca Raton again. We should all get together down there for an orgie or something…

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“The loudest, most strident voices calling women weak, stupid, and incapable of competing in the world at large are the feminists.” – zed the zen priest

08-30-2006 10:41 AM

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