Family Quality Time CANNOT be summoned


Reader Response to “Don’t Marry Career Women” – Family Quality Time CANNOT be summoned

Family Quality Time CANNOT be summoned
cmorales
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cmorales

Both articles have some good points and some lousy points. My two cents for what they are worth: as a mother of 3, sometimes 4 kiddos for whom I have very high expectations, married for 13 years with the most wonderful and down to earth PhD, a high demand 40+ hrs a week job for both spouses DOES NOT work. Even tough I am an extremely efficient person, and I have a lot of help in my house, I honestly believe that two 40 hrs a week jobs, kiddos and a happy marriage don’t mix together very well. I have done it both, and 25-30 hrs for me works great for me and my family.

Running a household, takes a lot of time, cooking, cleaning, homework, driving kiddos to activities is a full time job. I have a Masters degree from the Number 1 School in Industrial Engineering (Georgia Tech) and I am very proud to say that I am the CEO of my house, which includes jobs as a cook, maid, nurse, psychologist, teacher, chauffer, phone teller, financial officer, referee, etc, etc. Honestly, I do not see these jobs less fulfilling than my husband’s patents or his technical awards. If I compare my life to some of my full time working friends, all I see is kiddos who are poorly fed, kids with hectic schedules; kids taking some kind of medication due to behavioral problems, etc, etc. I think that the key to a happy marriage and a stable family is to have a vision of where you want your family to be, and working as a family towards that goal, whatever it takes…

Before I get back to work, you read a lot about the “quality time” thing, quality is what matters not quantity, this is what the “experts are telling us” right, the problem that I have with this idea, is that quality time cannot be summoned, the quality time happens unexpectedly during the total time spent with your family, you never know when your child will ask you those important questions that may change his/her life, spending a lot of time with them will give you a greater opportunity to catch those “quality times” that are in some cases life changing. By the way, I think that the quality time concept is just a cheap attempt to soothe our minds, when deep inside we know that we are doing a lousy job as parents.

Personally I don’t have to prove to anybody who is more capable or who can make more money, however I am convinced that each house needs a CEO and in our family I have proudly taking the honor, giving up a very promising and well paid career. At the end of day, a heart full of smiles, hugs, good grades and silliness is far more rewarding than any six or seven figure salary.

08-31-2006 08:48 AM

Re: Family Quality Time CANNOT be summoned
zacharias
Regular Contributor
zacharias

cmorales wrote:

If I compare my life to some of my full time working friends, all I see is kiddos who are poorly fed, kids with hectic schedules; kids taking some kind of medication due to behavioral problems, etc, etc.

That’s what everyone else sees, too. Gosh, you mean that people really can’t “have it all”? *gasp* We CANNOT let this word get out!!!

Well said, cmorales. Very well said, all of it.

08-31-2006 09:00 AM

Re: Family Quality Time CANNOT be summoned
warbaby
Regular Contributor
warbaby

cmorales, you’re my hero today.

08-31-2006 12:43 PM

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